Wed 26 Sep 2012
I found a fabulous post just the other day by an adult only child. She did such a good job articulating the positives and negatives she experienced as an only child that I decided to summarize here so my readers could benefit from her perspective. Her name is Laura and she can be found at Abundantly Blessed.
Laura feels there are more positives than negatives and even says that she is considering the possibility of an only child for herself. Here are some of the downsides she expereinced:
- She didn’t have anyone in her house that knew her parents like she did (I am assuming she meant to commiserate with). LOL
- As they get older, the responsibility for her parent’s care falls to her and her aunt.
- She didn’t have to share with anyone and has a hard time sharing as an adult. I love that she says she would rather buy her friend something than share something she has. : )
- Being the only child and the only grandchild, she felt a lot of pressure growing up to be athletic, intelligent, social, etc.
- There was never a scapegoat to blame.
- She has a relationship with her parents that is not shared by anyone else.
- She had amazing life experiences – financial resources didn’t have to be spread between children.
- She went to an incredible school.
- She is close to her parents and can count on them always.
- She is comfortable being alone.
- Being an only child makes her a better friend.
- She has a sense of self since she never had to compete with siblings.
As with any life situation, there are positives and negatives. I hope this helps you in your journey. If you are an only child and would like to share your experience with my readers, please either comment below or contact me. I would love for others to learn from your life.